I’ve updated the commenting rules for this web site — please give them a learn beneath for those who remark. (You can all the time discover them right here as effectively, and so they’re all the time linked proper above the commenting field.)
If you don’t remark, right here is a reside feed of some new child kittens to have a look at as an alternative.
First, I’ll word that It Is A Comment Section. It is filled with nameless strangers from all over the world, all with completely different frames of reference and completely different communication norms. It at instances shall be aggravating as a result of that’s the nature of remark sections. That stated…
The remark part right here is calmly moderated. Because I’m not round 24/7 and don’t see each remark, moderation shall be at instances inconsistent, and I depend on commenters to observe these neighborhood tips.
Comments that don’t observe these rules could also be eliminated with out warning.
1. Be variety to letter-writers and fellow commenters. If you wouldn’t say it to somebody whilst you have been a visitor in somebody’s residence and nonetheless anticipate to be invited again, don’t say it right here. That means:
• Give individuals the advantage of the doubt. Don’t leap to a unfavorable interpretation of somebody’s remark or scenario; assume good religion on the a part of others.
• Be constructive for those who’re criticizing.
• If your feedback are unkind, crabby, or snarky, or for those who appear to be understanding anger points on the world generally, I could take away your feedback, put you on everlasting moderation, or ban you, at my sole discretion.
2. Keep your feedback on-topic. Because remark threads can get lengthy and unwieldy as it’s, I could delete off-topic feedback.
3. Limit hypothesis on info not offered by letter-writers to cheap assumptions primarily based on the data supplied.
• Don’t invent prospects merely since you may think about them to be inside the distant realm of plausibility.
• If you’re speculating on info not within the letter, clarify the way it’s actionable for the letter-writer. “She might be stealing your lunch because she can’t afford her own” shouldn’t be actionable (and shortly turns into derailing). “She might be stealing your lunch because she can’t afford her own, and so you could try X” is actionable.
• Do not accuse individuals within the letter of nefarious motives primarily based purely on hypothesis. Letter writers aren’t characters in a story; they’re actual individuals.
4. Don’t aggressively shoot down strategies simply because they won’t work in a single explicit circumstance. For instance, don’t do that:
Person 1: “I’m having a problem that could be solved by easy things to bring for lunch.”
Person 2: “Sandwiches are easy and delicious.”
Person 3: “Not everyone can eat sandwiches! Some people are allergic to them. Thus, your suggestion sucks and you should be more considerate.”
5. Don’t armchair-diagnose others (“it sounds like your coworker is autistic/has borderline personality disorder/etc.”). We can’t diagnose primarily based on anecdotes on the web, these statements typically stigmatize individuals with these diagnoses, and it’s usually not helpful to deal with issues relatively than sensible recommendation for coping with the particular person in query.
6. People are consultants on their very own conditions and know extra about their very own circumstances than you do.
• This is an recommendation column, not a court docket of legislation; letter-writers don’t have to “prove” the info of their letter to your satisfaction. Please don’t topic them to, “But are you sure? No, are you really sure?”
• When a letter-writer stories a scenario is giving them dangerous vibes, notably in regard to security, harassment, or discrimination, imagine them. Don’t seek for methods to clarify away the habits or strain them to disregard their instincts since you personally haven’t had the identical experiences.
7. Don’t nitpick.
• Don’t nitpick individuals’s spelling, grammar, or phrase decisions.
• Don’t nitpick on substance. If somebody makes a remark that’s usually true, resist the urge to counter with a actually particular, unusual circumstance the place that basic fact wouldn’t apply, simply to have the ability to right the particular person.
8. Respect individuals’s anonymity. Don’t make feedback like “I think I know what company you work for.” People remark right here anticipating anonymity and, even when well-meant, these feedback could make individuals uneasy. (Also, they’re normally incorrect!)
