Here are 4 updates from previous letter-writers.
1. Can I invite solely girls and LGBTQ+ coworkers to a private movie screening?
I’m the letter author who wrote to you about organizing a private screening of a movie.
I ended up not inviting any colleagues. I’m comparatively senior in our workplace, so I made a decision to keep away from workers feeling strain to attend or having to fret about a monetary obligation to purchase a ticket.
The movie was so nice, however I’ll keep away from spoilers and go away it at that. We ended up promoting out a 103-seat theater, and it was solely made attainable by providing tickets to LGBTQ+ folks and their allies (together with a handful of cisgender, heterosexual males). Shout out to bamcheeks, Toaster Oven, and others for his or her considerate replies in the feedback.
2. When I’m managing remotely, ought to I take advantage of our group chat when somebody messes up?
Thank you a lot for answering. Both your perspective and the perspective of the commentators was so, so useful. Of course I by no means wish to make my direct stories uncomfortable, or embarrassed, or really feel like they’ll’t elevate points with me. I instantly apologized, each in private, and in public, and I made it clear to all of the folks in my workforce that I might elevate destructive points in private any longer.
3. Will I flip off my interviewer if I ask these questions? (#4 at the hyperlink)
I finally opted to ask particular, daring questions, however solely from folks throughout the interview who wouldn’t be on my workforce or my hiring supervisor. Specifically, I requested “How many times over the last month have you stayed up past 8 pm working on something?” I additionally tried to melt the tone, akin to with: “I know that there are alot of awesome things about company X, but I would be curious to know what is the worst thing about working at your company”? I really discovered that a few folks opened up, with 1 individual clearly hinting to numerous unhappiness, and one other, whereas not sad, indicated stress in the office.
While I finally didn’t get a suggestion; I spoke to an inside recruiter for about half-hour, and they emphasised that the rejection was on account of mismatch of technical expertise in the technical interview (i.e. in your technical interview, you didn’t make pots as quick as we wish or of the form we wish.), and not a cultural or points associated to my questions being overly aggressive.
Thank you on your fantastic recommendation!
4. CEO mentioned I’d be good at her job — and now she’s retiring (#5 at the hyperlink)
I took your recommendation. The posting closed two weeks in the past and I haven’t heard something again both manner, so there’s no actual replace on that entrance. I do wish to thanks and the commenters — as I mentioned in the feedback, I merely come from a world the place nobody would say “you should have my job!” except they meant that actually and had been actively making an attempt to make it occur. As you and others accurately identified, it seems that in more office-y type of jobs, that is one thing that individuals generally simply say to imply “you have some good qualifications” — it’s so alien to me! So thanks for instructing me about this norm.
But I do have a little bit of a humorous replace: along with my day job, I’m vice chairman of a skilled affiliation for folks in my line of labor. Over the previous couple of weeks, the president has began to develop into very considering speaking about succession planning, and saying the similar sorts of issues this CEO mentioned: “you should be doing my job,” “I want you to take over for me when I retire,” and so forth. And after this expertise with the CEO, I completely can’t deliver myself to consider her. I’m certain it’s a completely different factor when somebody you’re employed with very intently is mindfully doing succession planning and actively identifies you as their successor, and is taking actual, measurable steps to cross the baton to you, versus when a CEO doing a job interview simply casually tosses one thing off, however now I’m overcorrecting to “oh, she’s just being nice,” although all proof factors to this being a completely different type of scenario.
I’m certain I’ll get somebody’s job finally! Thanks once more on your assist.
